86 Wives

According to BBC News (published on 8/8/2008) a Nigerian man named Mohammed Bello Abubakar is telling other men not to follow in his footsteps, specifically don't marry 86 women. Talk about going above and beyond the call of duty... he's even starting to make some of the Mormon Fundamentalists blush. While many religions accept a man's ability to have more than one wife, even most Muslims believe that a man should limit his number to four.

According to Abubakar, he doesn't go looking form them, "they just come to me". Yes, I'm sure the women take one look at a molting stick figure of a man with only a few teeth and think, "Prince Charming". Honestly? What has this guy got going for him? It sure as heck isn't looks. Must be his "come-ons". And if so... every man on earth would want him to write a book divulging his secrets so they can too have women "just come to me".

I think most of the women that come to him, probably just need the financial support a husband in Africa can bring (however, how much financial support can a man give 86 women and countless more children?). In fact, according to BBC news, he doesn't make any money... instead he sends his children out to beg.

One of his wives commented that Abubakar informed her that she was to marry him as "directly an order from God". She was in high school. And he was in his 70s! Hmm... gentleman maybe that is his pick-up line- "Hey babe, God ordered you to marry me... so... how do you feel about an October 3rd wedding?".

This is just unbelieveable that women would do this... but then again, I have know many women who do many stupid things... especially when they think they'll get love. Sometimes all a man has to say is "I love you" (and he doesn't have to mean it) and a woman is already wiling to die for him, bear his children, and commit illegal acts just because "well... he told me he loved me".

So to women I say... question and test his love and don't give your love away unless you are certain that it will be cherished by him (rather than collected with 85 other peices).

To men I say... dont' be stupid and get 86 wives (or in the United States- 86 mothers of your children) financially it will kill you. Plus, it doesn't reflect well upon someone who isn't man enough to support his own family and therefore has to rely upon welfare or sending his children out to make money to support you.

To Mohammed Abubakar I say... you took advantage of financially strapped, emotionally vulnerable, or religiously dillusional women. Sure you give them a place to stay and a man to call "husband", but there could have been other/better ways. You didn't have to sleep with them and then make your children with them the means of your financial stability. While most of your wives may see you as "next in line from the Prophet Muhammad", I see you as a dilusional horny man.